Comments on: Dyscalculia and Finance: or, Hell. http://www.addaptabilities.com/2010/03/26/dyscalculia-and-finance/ Life with Adult Learning Disabilities Mon, 26 Sep 2011 21:24:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Addy http://www.addaptabilities.com/2010/03/26/dyscalculia-and-finance/comment-page-1/#comment-287 Addy Sat, 12 Jun 2010 21:44:22 +0000 http://www.addaptabilities.com/?p=496#comment-287 I know what you mean about the guilty conscience. I know it's not my fault, and in any event I'm making honest mistakes -- it's not like I'm intentionally misleading anyone-- but I feel as if somehow, deep down, I'm not just doing badly at math, but that I'm <em>doing something bad</em> whenever I have to do math. It's a terrible feeling. I know what you mean about the guilty conscience. I know it’s not my fault, and in any event I’m making honest mistakes — it’s not like I’m intentionally misleading anyone– but I feel as if somehow, deep down, I’m not just doing badly at math, but that I’m doing something bad whenever I have to do math. It’s a terrible feeling.

]]> By: Kent http://www.addaptabilities.com/2010/03/26/dyscalculia-and-finance/comment-page-1/#comment-286 Kent Sat, 12 Jun 2010 06:24:59 +0000 http://www.addaptabilities.com/?p=496#comment-286 Wow.. Sounds familiar. I have for 4 years been in the most abrasive after-divorce situation you can imagine, so my economy is under constant scrutiny for possibly getting a bit more out of me in child support or whatever. I am deeply in debt because of lawyer bills and my economy is in shambles. It is very stressed. On top of that, I have sat through day-long meetings with two lawyers and a stenographer while trying to remember months and numbers and where this or that came from UNDER OATH. It was excruciating torture. Sometimes I can't even remember what year something happened. What gets me with accounting is that no matter how methodical I am, I always have this feeling of having done it wrong. I try to be the straightest shooter and yet I end up with a conscience as dark as pitch. Whenever I have to go back to it, I feel like I have been caught red handed and that now the End of the World is at hand. Not only do I feel it is likely I could have done something wrong, I also suspect myself of creating it on purpose - that I should really be able to just overcome my troubles with numbers and dates. I am unwilling to face the problems, since it implies I am somehow defective, a notion I have had since I was a nerd in school who sucked at sports. I got teased and tormented and somewhere, I thought I deserved it for being such a cheat. I was smart in other areas, but NOT numbercrunching. Everybody expected me to be great in all disciplines. At my high school final exam I swapped September and October and my arguments at the oral exam in history fell to the ground as a ton of bricks. I got a D and the teacher was laughing so the entire school could hear it. We have been doing accounting in the house for a week now. My wife is mainly doing it, but we fight all the time. I am completely exhausted. Every time she asks me a question, I get dry mouth, my hands and feet go cold and I feel like I am about to die. I defend myself and raise my voice and hate myself for it. It is not at all going well. I would really appreciate hearing if anybody has similar experiences with doing accounting. Kent Wow.. Sounds familiar.
I have for 4 years been in the most abrasive after-divorce situation you can imagine, so my economy is under constant scrutiny for possibly getting a bit more out of me in child support or whatever. I am deeply in debt because of lawyer bills and my economy is in shambles. It is very stressed.

On top of that, I have sat through day-long meetings with two lawyers and a stenographer while trying to remember months and numbers and where this or that came from UNDER OATH. It was excruciating torture. Sometimes I can’t even remember what year something happened.

What gets me with accounting is that no matter how methodical I am, I always have this feeling of having done it wrong. I try to be the straightest shooter and yet I end up with a conscience as dark as pitch. Whenever I have to go back to it, I feel like I have been caught red handed and that now the End of the World is at hand.

Not only do I feel it is likely I could have done something wrong, I also suspect myself of creating it on purpose – that I should really be able to just overcome my troubles with numbers and dates. I am unwilling to face the problems, since it implies I am somehow defective, a notion I have had since I was a nerd in school who sucked at sports. I got teased and tormented and somewhere, I thought I deserved it for being such a cheat. I was smart in other areas, but NOT numbercrunching. Everybody expected me to be great in all disciplines. At my high school final exam I swapped September and October and my arguments at the oral exam in history fell to the ground as a ton of bricks. I got a D and the teacher was laughing so the entire school could hear it.

We have been doing accounting in the house for a week now. My wife is mainly doing it, but we fight all the time. I am completely exhausted. Every time she asks me a question, I get dry mouth, my hands and feet go cold and I feel like I am about to die. I defend myself and raise my voice and hate myself for it. It is not at all going well.

I would really appreciate hearing if anybody has similar experiences with doing accounting.

Kent

]]> By: Addy http://www.addaptabilities.com/2010/03/26/dyscalculia-and-finance/comment-page-1/#comment-261 Addy Fri, 14 May 2010 20:50:06 +0000 http://www.addaptabilities.com/?p=496#comment-261 Hi Debra, That sounds like a tough situation ... and it really seems like it's not the best division of labor for you to be the one to worry about the finances. It's clearly taking a toll on your mental health already, and it's only a matter of time before your physical health is affected as well. That's not good for you or your family. Hi Debra,

That sounds like a tough situation … and it really seems like it’s not the best division of labor for you to be the one to worry about the finances. It’s clearly taking a toll on your mental health already, and it’s only a matter of time before your physical health is affected as well. That’s not good for you or your family.

]]> By: debra http://www.addaptabilities.com/2010/03/26/dyscalculia-and-finance/comment-page-1/#comment-259 debra Fri, 14 May 2010 07:01:41 +0000 http://www.addaptabilities.com/?p=496#comment-259 I long to hear some solutions too. My husband is used to having a girl friend organize everything for him. I, literally, have had several nervous breakdowns trying to do what he is delegating to me! .This all resulted in hyper-focusing, over-compensating behaviors (trying to implement Microsoft Money -- which just made things more confusing for me/us.) I have begged my husband to bring in a bookeeper but he says we can't afford it. However he just bought a jet sky so we can go on vacation....? For me, the best "vacation" would be for our 5-years of back taxes to be done!!! I can't apply for various types of aid: medicaid, financial aide to got back to school....tuition assistance for kid's camp... without the "latest tax form" I long to hear some solutions too. My husband is used to having a girl friend organize everything for him. I, literally, have had several nervous breakdowns trying to do what he is delegating to me! .This all resulted in hyper-focusing, over-compensating behaviors (trying to implement Microsoft Money — which just made things more confusing for me/us.) I have begged my husband to bring in a bookeeper but he says we can’t afford it. However he just bought a jet sky so we can go on vacation….? For me, the best “vacation” would be for our 5-years of back taxes to be done!!!

I can’t apply for various types of aid: medicaid, financial aide to got back to school….tuition assistance for kid’s camp… without the “latest tax form”

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